The secret to networking like a natural

Spoiler alert: It's a skill. Here's how you can hone it.

By Lauren Beckman

Spoiler alert: It's a skill. Here's how you can hone it.

By Lauren Beckman

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Networking is one of those parts of professional life that can feel deeply overwhelming – especially if you’re introverted, early in your career or just not someone who enjoys small talk over canapés.

I recently gave a colleague a quick pep talk before an event, after she quietly admitted, “I’m just not good at networking.”

Practice introducing yourself out loud

Yes, really. Practice saying who you are and what you do out loud — ideally before the event and somewhere private. Having a go-to version of your introduction helps you avoid stumbling in the moment, especially if you’re nervous. Keep it simple, clear and confident. The aim isn’t to impress, it’s to be understood.

Pay attention to your body language

When we feel nervous, we often shrink without realising it — crossed arms, hunched shoulders, fidgeting. Unfortunately, that body language can make us seem closed off, even if we don’t feel that way. Try standing with your feet shoulder-width apart, spine tall and hands in a comfortable resting position. You’ll project confidence and openness, making it easier for others to approach you.

Have a few icebreakers up your sleeve

You don’t need to launch into your life story. Sometimes a simple “What brought you along tonight?” is all it takes. If you’re worried about awkward silences, it can help to have a few go-to topics in mind — a recent news story, an industry trend or even a project you’ve worked on recently. The goal isn’t to sound clever. It’s to create a connection.

One last thing: Networking shouldn’t just be something you do when you’re job hunting. The best networks are built when you don’t need anything from someone, just genuine curiosity and connection. So start small. Be kind to yourself. And remember that even the most “confident” people you see probably once stood awkwardly by the drinks table too.

Lauren Beckman is a strategist, communicator and policy thinker with over a decade of experience across government, media, cultural institutions and the gender equity sector.

In addition to being FW’s Head of Canberra Programs, Lauren creates accessible political explainers and feminist commentary through her platform @lauren.lately.

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